There is something immovable and unshakeable which becomes
manifest in the crumbling of our world. On the boundaries of the finite, the
infinite becomes visible. — Paul Tillich, “The Shaking of the
Foundations”
My friend Bruce raised the question, “Do we have to go
through the depths of grief that Buber went through in order to get to the
level of authentic, transcendent dialogue?” Buber wrote about the trauma he
lived through during the war years (1912-1919):
With me it was the case that all the experiences of being that
I had during the years 1912-1919 became increasingly present to me as one great
experience of faith. By this I mean an experience that transports [hinnimmt] the person in all of his
constituent parts, including his capacities of thought so that, bursting open
all of the doors, the storm blows through all of the chambers. (Buber, “Replies,”
in Schilpp 689-90)
Buber here uses the metaphor of the house to represent “the
person in all of her constituent parts”—that is, the whole person.
This he
wrote in retrospect near the end of his long life. He sketched a more intense
version of this process in 1919 at the climax of his trauma and struggle in the
war years:
The Unconditional has its effect on
a person when he lets himself in his whole being be seized by it, be utterly
shaken, be transformed by it—when he responds to it [ihm antwortet] with his whole being: with his mind, by perceiving
the Divine in its symbols; with his soul, by his loving the All; with his will,
by his putting the Unconditional to the proof in his life-actions [durch Bewährung
des Unbedingten im tätigen Leben]. (Buber, “Herut,” On Judaism 153)
Buber’s thinking, like that of a
number of twentieth century existential thinkers such as Camus, Sartre,
Heidegger, and Tillich, was significantly shaped and framed by the traumas of
war in Europe. His exploration and articulation of the mystery of the inner
life in dialogue became one with the mystery of fragile human existence.
Buber presents his traumas as “his
own unique case”—notice how he starts his account at the beginning of this blog
post. Yet the depth he calls us to requires a crisis of awakening. In 1951 he
wrote an introduction to a book on the theory of “healing through meeting”
written by his friend Hans Trüb, a psychotherapist. There he
sketched a process by which a person practicing psychotherapy as a profession
might move from mere professionalism to authentic self-disclosure in relation
to his or her clients. As Buber sketches it, the crisis by which one moves to authenticity—in
this case, therapeutic authenticity—begins with dismay and honest
self-reflection, leading to insight and the ability to hear a call, the call of
“the naked abyss of a person’s inner life” (Buber, “Healing Through Meeting” 94).
This abyss calls out to the abyss which is the inner life of the therapist,
that selfhood that is itself
encompassed by chaos, itself familiar with demons, but is graced with the
humble power of wrestling and overcoming, and is ready to wrestle and overcome
thus ever anew. Through his hearing of this call [he can turn to his client] as
one to whom the necessity of genuine personal meetings in the abyss of human
existence between the one in need of help and the helper has been revealed.
(95)
Sidney Jourard's classic book The Transparent Self embodies this dialogical ethos.
So Buber’s answer to Bruce’s
question is "no one does not have to have Buber’s level of trauma and anguish," but "yes, crisis and soul-searching are necessary on the way to authenticity in
engagement with the Other." It is this authenticity in which “deep calls to
deep,” abyss to abyss. Buber identifies it as a "way":
This way of frightened pause, of
unfrightened reflection, of personal involvement, of rejection of security, of
unreserved stepping into relationship, of the bursting of psychologism, this is
the way of vision and of risk. (97)